How to First Kiss

As kisses go, how to first kiss is all important because...

It sets the stage for other kisses that follow.

If it goes of well, you are in.

If it wasn't a good kiss, then chances are you aren't going to get a second chance.

A girl isn't going to forget her first kiss, so if you play it right, you will make a great impression on her.

How to First Kiss: What to Avoid at ALL Costs:

A clumsy kiss.

Bad timing.

Bad choice of location.

Too many people around or to much noise.

Forcing your tongue into her mouth.

Being rough or trying to be extra passionate

Creating the Kissing Mood

You need to set the stage for how to first kiss. So choose to go to a place where you know you can be semi private. Don't plan a date where there are always a lot of people around. Any place where you can be totally alone, for a little while at least will work well.

Which doesn't mean that the second you are alone, you make a beeline for her. What it actually means is that you check to see that you are alone.

If you are then you can concentrate on your date. The best way on how to first kiss is let the desire in your eyes grow, while you focus on her lips. She will become conscious of it and conversation should naturally come to a halt.

Or if there is a lull in the conversation and she is looking at you with bated breath and an invitation in her eyes, then don't lose a moment. Reach out for your first kiss

Before Kissing Her

Make sure you are alone and no one will disturb you at the wrong moment.

It is quiet and romantic, not noisy and crowded.

Get physically and mentally ready for it.

Watch her till you sense she is ready. Don't kiss her when she is distracted by something else (like hunting in her bag for her keys)

Read her body language. Is she leaning towards you, has her face tilted up to yours?

Are you holding hands or have you been touching before this? If not then don't kiss her.

Under no condition should you ask her, if you may kiss her. That'll take all the fun out of it.

Keep your eyes open as you let your mouth descend to hers.

Let them close only when your lips meet.

Support her chin with one hand or cup her face in both hands when you are kissing her.

Once you are kissing her, forget the world. Take all the time you need to make it a memorable experience. Loose yourself in the kiss and the various sensations that you feel holding her close and kissing her.

Go very very slow.

Start by running your fingers through her hair, or caressing her cheek. Then kiss he cheek and move across to plant a soft, sensuous, gentle kiss on her lips.

Pretend you are kissing the most beautiful woman in the world and don't want to frighten her away.

Keep on caressing her body throughout the kiss and let her lean against you, when she goes weak with passion.

Don't initiate any tongue kissing, unless she does it first.

And last but not least, please don't slobber. Control your saliva levels, nobody likes to have it dripping into their mouth. A good kiss should be wet, but not sopping wet.

The Aftermath

Hopefully, your first kiss with a particular date has been an exciting, memorable moment.

The ending is now equally important as the beginning, because it is the ending that will ensure you go on to other kisses and don't feel awkward with each other.

Here's how to end that sensational first kiss and what to do after you end it:

Draw apart slowly as though coming up for air.

Stroke her cheek with one hand or cup her chin (touch her face in a way that seems natural).

Then look her deep in the eyes and then drop your gaze to her lips.

Lean forward and plant a short, closed mouth kiss on her lips. Sort of like an ending to a paragraph.

Then link your hands together and carry on back to what you were doing, walking under the stars or talking softly.

It is important to be at ease with each other, so that you don't feel awkward later on.

At the same time, it is natural to feel self conscious, so don't leave your date right away, spend a few extra minutes with her so that any beginning awkwardness melts away.

When you leave your date and go home, you should have left a girl thoroughly dazed and delighted by your tender, sensitive kiss. Befuddles by all the feelings that you have woken in her, and by the restrained passion with which you have kissed her.

She will probably tell her friends all about it, dream of your kiss and eagerly look forward to the next one...

What is Possible

When planning how to first kiss remember what is possible:

Romantic & Passionate
Think of long walks, snuggled up somewhere warm when it's cold and rainy outside. Think of flowers and eager lip-nibbling kisses.

Intimate
Think of slow dancing, riding a horse together, or kissing with her sitting in your lap.

Fast Paced
Only if she definitely shows she wants it fast. Otherwise keep it slow and sexy. You could steal a fast paced kiss virtually anywhere, while waiting for the train to come, or at the movies.

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